The days after the death of a loved one are hectic and full of people. There are plans to be made, meals to be coordinated, appointments with funeral homes and/or religious leaders. In those early days we don't have time to feel our loss in any significant way. It's almost as if our minds and hearts seize on the details in order to cope with the larger reality. It is normal to wonder why we don't feel the sadness we expected to feel, or that we think others expect us to be feeling. That sadness may take a long time to surface. We can, however, trust that the grief will come - at what ever time our hearts and minds are ready to process it.