I have spent many years grieving, studying grief, and teaching about grief. Now I want to talk - especially to talk to others who are grieving or wondering what grief is all about. I will post some of my thoughts on this page from time to time, but I want to hear from you, too.
To get started, I believe that every death is a sudden death. Even when we have days, weeks, or months to prepare for the death of a loved one, that final breath comes as a shock. Deaths that occur quickly and unexpectedly carry their own unique burden of grief, but the finality is the same. There is no more room for negotiating any aspect of the relationship with the deceased. Everything we had with them has died with that final breath.